Jesus loved lost people. He loved spending time with them. He went to their parties. From the Gospels, it is obvious that Jesus enjoyed being with seekers far more than being with religious leaders. He was called the “friend of sinners” (Luke 7:34). How many people would call your church that?
The honest reason many churches do not have a crowd is they don’t want one! They don’t like having to relate to unbelievers. Attracting a crowd of unbelievers would disturb their comfortable routine. Selfishness keeps a lot of churches from growing.
The command to love is the most repeated command in the New Testament, appearing at least 55 times. If we don’t love people, nothing else matters. “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love” (1 John 4:8).
I like to ask the new converts I baptize, “What attracted you to our church family?” Out of all the people that I’ve asked this question, I’ve never had one person say, “It is because of the Reformation theology you believe.” No one has ever said, “It was your beautiful buildings,” or, “It was your full calendar of activities.” Instead, the most common response was, “I felt an incredible spirit of love toward me that drew me in.”
Did you catch the focus of the love in that sentence? Many churches are full of members who love each other, but still the church is dying or at least not growing. In a small church, the fellowship can become so tight that newcomers are unable to break into it. They have a wonderful fellowship among the members, but they don’t have a love for unbelievers.
It is simply a myth that large churches are always cold and impersonal and small churches are automatically warm and loving. Size has nothing to do with love or friendliness. The reason some churches remain small is because they aren’t loving. People want to go where love is.
Love draws people in like a powerful magnet. A lack of love drives people away.