We aren’t certain our alarms will wake us up on time, aren’t certain we’ll have enough gas to get to work, aren’t certain the kids finished all their homework, and aren’t certain we locked the door.
And we aren’t certain we will keep our job another month, aren’t certain we’ll have enough money to pay the rent, aren’t certain our kids will make the right choices when we aren’t around. The list goes on.
1. Financial. It is up to you to make her feel secure by working hard, staying out of excessive debt, providing financial stability, and wisely planning a budget and sticking to it.
2. Children. Some days, your wife will want to catch a movie with friends or go run errands around town. Give her the freedom to do these things by knowing how to take care of the kids when she’s not there. Be active in learning how to feed them, bathe them, and put them to bed so that you can do it on your own when your wife is gone. She needs to have confidence in you so she can have that sense of security while she’s gone.
3. Relational. Too often, relational uncertainty is the root of a wife’s insecurity. Be sure that your wife is completely confident that you would never pursue an affair with another woman. Train your eyes to not look at other women, online or offline, so your wife can know you only have eyes for her.
Your wife also needs the security of knowing that you are on her team, that you are man of integrity and a man she can trust. She needs to know that you are committed to her for life.
What are some other ways you have made your wife feel secure? Feel free to leave your experiences in a comment below.
Mark Merrill is the president of Family First.